Some Light Reading

Just polishing off the Observer Magazine from Sunday. I suppose you’d call “Dear Mariella” a highbrow agony aunt. I personally prefer the slappy ones in The Sun, but this week’s Mariella really got me to thinking. The reader asks advice concerning her husband who, adhering to an earlier agreement with said reader, doesn

4 Comments so far

  1. Jared (unregistered) on October 27th, 2005 @ 10:57 am

    I have nothing to add. I very much agree with you. And kind of feel sorry for the first child…

  2. Chris Wheatley (unregistered) on October 27th, 2005 @ 12:58 pm

    This seems to be incredibly bad … well, I don’t really want to call it advice. Firstly, this women seems to have a whole ‘cup half empty’ thing going on.
    Secondly, she’s treading on very thin ice if she thinks she actually helping by saying the women should either “1) threaten to leave him or 2) promise him sexual favors if he gets you pregnant and then, after getting pregnant, conveniently forget about the promised favors”
    Having children is one of those things you have to want to do. Me, I’m a children person. Have 2 of them and think they’re the most fantastic, amazing, incredible, funny…I’m boring you now. But that’s the thing about children people, they can’t see why some people don’t want them. Then you have non children people. They don’t unsderstand why people would want kids. Both are perfectly acceptable ways to be. I don’t think non children people are bad people for thinking like that (a bit nuts maybe). But they don’t mix, and I know this from experience. My wife and I knew a couple once where the chap wanted them and the chapess didn’t. She tried to come around to the idea by reading some books about it, trying to learn to want kids. It didn’t work out.

    This bloke doesn’t want another kid. They are hard work, that’s for sure, but it gets easier all the time. They get older, more self suffucent, funnier, better company. Maybe he’s enjoying his one child and want to keep it like that. If the women tries to force him into having another one then she won’t have to threten to leave him, it’ll probably split them up anyway

  3. sonia (unregistered) on November 1st, 2005 @ 2:03 pm

    bad advice indeed. all its going to result in is said husband leaving wife some point down the line when all is revealed. so wife in question may as well leave the man out of the equation and go off and have second child anyway if thats what she really wants.

  4. Flora (unregistered) on November 3rd, 2005 @ 9:56 am

    If you want to read the original article, here’s a link:,11913,1596691,00.html

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